Career Girlie (Part 1)

I recently met a guy online and it seemed like we had a lot in common.  We both said in our profile that our favorite movie was “About Last Night” so the first text he sent me said, “What’s for breakfast?"  Egg McMuffin, Corner of Broadway and Belmont”. 

IYKYK! 

I chimed in quickly with “Don’t make me start drinking in the suburbs”.  Both of these were classic lines from the movie.

He said I have never met someone who likes “About Last Night” as much as me.  I said, you have now!

We were off and running with many more fun texts, but things then took a serious turn.

He asked if I never wanted to get married or never felt right?  I said, never felt right. 

He then asked if I travel?  I said yes.  He said, how much?  I said I enjoy it for both work and personal.  He asked what I do for a living, and I said I am in sales, and he said he is a CEO of a company.

He said, are you hoping to find a partner who can travel a lot?  I said I do hope I find someone who likes to travel but schedules are a whole ‘nother story.

He texted, it’s important to have a few things aligned with a partner (mansplaining begins).  For example, if it’s hard to find time to see each other because of schedules, desired lifestyles verses wanting to be with a partner, this could be an issue, no?

He went on to say – what I mean is, some people find it really important to have somebody that fits their lifestyle verses a romantic like me who is more interested in meeting somebody special and making it about that partnership.

I say I haven’t found anyone to stay home for, with the right person, anything is possible. 

Boom!

He went on to text.  Are you just not meeting the right man or are you just really happy going it alone and doing things the way you like?  For example, one of my best friends has never been married and has no kids and has only had one serious relationship and he is very much about how he wants things and how he wants his life to look, and it causes serious issues with his relationships.

Now, I have to pump the brakes on this.  I say, this is all a lot for texting.

He said, OK.

Now this is where I can’t help myself.  I say, are you breaking up with me before we even go out?

He said that made him laugh and then said good night.

A couple days later he reaches out again.  He asked if we could meet up.  He said he is coaching his son’s football team every night for the next couple of weeks so could we meet at 9pm in the city? 

Not to be difficult but, I tell him that it is late for a first date for me. He then said he could skip a practice.  I tell him I don’t want him to disappoint his son, and he can let me know when things slow down for him, I am not going anywhere.  

He then asked me if I could meet up on a weekend.  That weekend I happened to be out of town, and he said he was disappointed because it was a time he didn’t have his kids. 

He said, maybe our schedules are just too different.  He said let me know when your schedule opens up. 

I laughed, his schedule is the one that is booked every night until 9pm and has kids on weekends!  He reminded me that it is my schedule that is the problem. 

The difficulty we had of trying to even land on a date should have been the proper foreshadowing for me.  But I didn’t trust my first instinct!  We did find a time to get together.

Part 2, coming next!

Lesson learned?  Things shouldn’t be this hard.  I can make many sacrifices for someone I know.  For someone I don’t know, I get very protective of my time and especially my sleep.