Drinking and Winking

I had this vision for a very long long time. I wanted to get all of my girlfriends in a room, pull up match.com on a screen, then drink and wink. I had done it individually with friends, but, I always thought it would be great to do in a large setting as well.

This idea took on a life of its own. I then decided it would be fun to drink and wink and invite these guys to a party at a bar! Since many of my friends aren’t on match.com, I thought it would be fun to try something new.

So, I decide to have the drinking and winking party at my house. I somehow figure out how to project my computer up on my flat screen TV. Amazing! I then invite 14 girls over and provide dinner/drinks. Let the games begin!

I did have one rule though as we were looking at the guys, no judging! (tough to ask in a room full of girls, that is for sure). However, if one girl thinks a guy is cute, we were going to invite him. Case closed.

I thought to myself, thank goodness we all don’t have the same taste in guys, or, there would be plenty of fights!

It was fascinating to learn what my friends like and dislike. I would have one girl in the hot seat and then we would go through all of the criteria for a search. What race/religion/income/eye color (ha), etc. etc. I would go, that is your preference? OK, cool. Then, our search results would be on the big screen.

Once we found a guy that we liked, I would send a note and ask for their adventurous spirit to join us for a party at a bar. Some guys were suspicious, can’t say that I blame them. And, others were ready to go.

It is a good thing I am in sales because many guys had to be talked into attending. I had 20 girls coming to the party, so I was trying to get the ratio even.

One guy called me on the way over to the party concerned I was going to have lots of guys and few girls. I said, from your mouth to God’s ears! I also said, you guys are so non-committal, I have no idea who is coming. You all just say you will try and stop by. Is that a yes or a no? I consider that a no. So, of course I need to over invite. A struggle for sure as I am a planner.

The stage was set in a private room at a local bar. We wanted to be sure we knew who was coming for us verses just out for a drink.

I did invite a guy who was a friend of mine as well. I had all the girls come an hour before the guys so we could have a couple of spirits. I told all the girls that these guys are really going out on a limb to meet us. so we all have to be nice and inclusive. It is only a couple of hours.

The first guy who shows up is my friend. He thought it was great, 20 girls and one guy. He felt so sorry for us, he was buying us all shots. Then, a second guy came. He was excited as well. The party was set for 3 hours and for the first hour and a half, it was 20 girls and 2 guys. I couldn’t believe it. I told all of my girlfriends that we would have to have low expectations, but, I didn’t realize that they had to be this low!

Then, within 10 minutes – 20 guys came! A success! Many digits were exchanged. and everyone had a great time.

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Lesson learned: Mixing it up and going out of your comfort zone is a great way to meet new people.