It's an inside job! (Part 2)

After a dreamy and unexpected first date, he asks me if I would like to go to a wine tasting at a local restaurant after work. Of course! That sounds fun.

So, we get to this restaurant for the wine tasting and the tide starts to turn. While we were seated, there was a server that kept coming through with huge trays of cheese and crackers to go with the wine.

Now, these are large charcuterie type boards that the server had a hard time balancing. As she walks through, he said, wait, stop by our table before you set it down. She kind of laughed but, he was serious.

I let it go but it bugged me that he thought we should be served before everyone else. It wasn’t passed app’s, they were to be set at a table we were supposed to walk over to if we were hungry.

So, he went on to say it to the server two more times. At that point, I couldn’t take it, I said, she is not here to just serve us. If she stops at our table, she will have to stop at all tables. Why are you putting her in that situation? That feedback fell on deaf ears, he didn’t really care.

Then, the manager of the restaurant comes over to ask how we are doing. I said great. She said, you two should come back in the summer because we have an awesome roof deck. She said you need to make a reservation though, because it can get busy.

My date said, why would we make a reservation now that we know you? We will just call you so you can sneak us in. Can I have your card? I gasped. That is not what she was suggesting.

So, this night wraps up but I didn’t like the red flag that appeared. His career puts him in a position of authority, so I am trying to give the benefit of doubt and trudge forward.

Earlier in the night (before this nonsense), I had invited him to join my friends for a group night out on Valentine’s Day. He said he would love to join as he didn't have any plans.

Valentine’s Day arrives and we all meet out for tacos before going to a show. Now, there are many girls and he is the only guy. He sneaks away and comes back with shots of tequila for all of us to wish us a Happy Valentine’s Day. Another boss move.

The show begins and we have a great time. I see him getting along with all of my friends which warms my heart. However, none of my friends know the story that we had a couple of dates. My motto is, until there is something to tell, there is nothing to tell.

The show is over and we are all getting ready to leave. Here is where the tide turns yet again. I see him asking my friends for their phone numbers. Wait, what? He is asking for their numbers in front of me?

In their defense, they have no idea we have even gone out. They think he is a random friend at the table. But, he knows. And, I know.

I become immediately annoyed at this gesture and decide to leave. I get home and since I had a couple of drinks, I felt I needed to text him. I said, so glad I could introduce you to a gaggle of girls so you could get digits. He said, yes, they are great! I reply, you must not understand my sarcasm. He then went dark.

The nerve of him. I now have a couple of options. I could just: A) Move on and ghost the situation. B) Send him a text and tell him how disrespected I felt. C) Give him a shellacking in person.

What happens next? Well, of course there is a Part 3!

Lesson learned? Always watch the way people treat their server, it can be a red flag that needs to be considered. Also, one rooster and many chickens are not a good combination on Valentine’s Day.