Looking for Clarity - Part 2

Be sure to read the previous post for a refresher of the first part of this story. Here is the finale!

The next week he texts me to go out. I already had plans but thought that was a very good sign.

The week after, I was having a party and thought, perhaps I should include him and see what happens? This would reiterate that I am interested? So, I invite him and he is very excited and accepts my invitation.

What could go wrong? Famous last words.

He calls me one day before my party, I am thinking he is canceling. No, he is wondering what he can bring. Good news, he is still coming.

He then says, (are you sitting down?) do you have room for an extra person? I said sure, the more the merrier. Good he says, I have a friend in town. SHE will be here for a couple of days.

SHE? What is he doing? He couldn’t be bringing a date to my house, right?

Well, as a proper serial dater for years, let's overanalyze this. I called the Peanut Gallery (my friends) to tell them all about it and they reassured me that he would never bring a date to my house. They said he would just go to dinner with her and have a night out on the town. They wouldn't want to spend time with other people, let alone strangers. I agreed and thought this has to be just a friend. And, they are looking for something to do.

The next day they show up and if this was a date, we are polar opposites as far as looks. She is a short brunette and I am a tall blonde. They aren’t being very cozy at first but I am definitely trying to assess the situation. What in the friend zone is going on?

He asks to tour my condo which we did. The girl is nice and whatnot but I was still having a hard time figuring out the story. I did find out for sure she doesn’t live here and never did, has no family or ties here and no place to stay. Can you tell I am in sales? I spend my days qualifying things.

Then, the two of them sit down a couple of rows ahead of me in my theater and I see her go in for the lean. As we were getting ready to watch a movie, he grabs her hand. Are you kidding me? He brought a date to his date’s house. Confirmed. I mean, we had only been on a couple of dates, but, he had multiple chances to say he was dating someone! He absolutely should have clarified when he asked if he could bring her? He clearly stated they were friends. Why I aughttaa..

This was so not fair to either of us and quite arrogant of him. I could have easily blown his cover but didn't. What an awkward position he put us all in.

Either this guy is downright mean or, doesn’t know enough to come in out of the rain. Perhaps a combination.

As I was cleaning my house after the party, he was trying to help. My friend said to him, I think you have done enough. Classic.

The next day I sent him what I like to call a heat seeking email. I set him straight and told him how disappointed I was with what happened. Never heard from him again and wasn’t surprised about that. NEXT!

Lesson learned? Guys aren’t that complicated. They go after what they want. No need to ask a guy out. I will now stay in my own lane again.