Magnetic Personality

Now that we are all out traveling again, many of my co-workers and random people I see out ask me if I am dating anyone because we haven’t seen each other in so long. I am not sure if married people think it was easy to meet people over the past two years, but that was close to impossible for me. Which was OK, I enjoyed the break.

Recently, I was talking with a married man at a party who has been married for over 20 years. He asked my status and I said I was single and looking.

He said, I don’t understand why you are single, I find your personality magnetic (I love that by the way). I said, I don’t know, I guess it is the 8th wonder of the world. (HA!)

He went on to say, if I had to do it all over again, I would marry someone that if I wasn’t married to her, I would want to be friends with her. Be sure to look for that in a partner.

Whoa! I said, does that mean you aren’t friends with your wife? He said no, I would not hang out with her if we weren’t married. But, we have kids so I make it work.

I found that sad, but I am sure common. It was one of those statements that stopped me in my tracks. I am glad it was said because it is definitely something to think about. Sometimes unsolicited advice is very helpful.

I have also had 3 different people say to me recently that I intimidate men and that is why I am single. I never know how to respond to that sentiment? Thanks for the feedback?

I was just on a cruise and this random guy I met said I have too high of standards but, I should have high standards. So, which is it? You can understand my confusion. He also apologized on behalf of all men after hearing only one of my dating stories which of course made me laugh.

Not long ago, I was at a tailgate at a Bears game and this guy said he wanted to set me up with his buddy. He points him out to me and I said, no, we don't even need to go any further. He said why? I said, he is smoking and that is a deal breaker for me. His response? No wonder you are single.

Well, maybe so, but I am OK with that.

I mean, I appreciate their thoughts, but I struggle with whether or not I should change anything because of it? If I alter what I say about my life to someone on a date or bend on things I feel strongly about, it just would feel disingenuous.

If someone can’t handle it then, they aren’t for me. It is that simple. I don’t want to try to be someone I am not.

Lesson learned? I hope everyone reading this realizes that just because you are married doesn’t mean you are happy and just because you are single doesn’t mean you are miserable. Every situation is different! I am going to keep doing me and have faith it is all going to work out like it should. Because it always does.