We Nancy Drew 'Em

There are many times that people's actions force us daters to be Private Investigators. It is not what we want to do, nor do we enjoy it, but, a necessary evil at times.

This has happened to me quite a bit over the years. If a person's story doesn't add up (and, many times it doesn't), the internet affords us the ability to double check a situation. If your gut tells you something is off, believe it and find out all you can.

I remember back in the day, I would have to ride my 10 speed around a boy's house to see what is doing. These days, you can do it from your living room! Blessed!

Anyway, I was talking with one of my single friends recently and she shared a story that resonated with me. Here goes.

She met a guy years ago and he asked for her number. She had a date or two with him and they had a nice time, but nothing really came of it. Every once in awhile he would check in with her but not consistent or even newsworthy,

Years later, she ended up bumping into him at an industry event. He said they should stay in touch and she was like, um, you have my number? He said, sorry, I was dating a girl who was super crazy and jealous and she made me delete all the girls in my phone. We have since broken up (wonder why?) and he said he wanted to stay in touch again.

So, my friend said, sure, here is my number. The texts start back up and she enjoys chatting with him.

Well, you guessed it, a short while later, he sends a text saying he is getting back with the crazy ex. So, he told her he needed to repair that relationship and to basically have a nice life. So, my friend moved on.

About three weeks later, this guy starts texting my friend again. She thought that was odd since she knew how jealous the girlfriend was? But, maybe they aren't together anymore she thought? So, she is texting him back but her curiosity was peaked.

This is the time to Nancy Drew it. She did a deep dive on his Facebook page. She saw some girl consistently liking all of his posts and posting lots of heart emoji's, heart eye emoji's etc. etc.

This guy was continuing to contact my friend though and tell her he was traveling to a city and what his plans were. As a good PI, my friend would pull up this girl's page and would discover she was in that city too. So, it wasn't overtly blatant but enough for her to connect the dots.

As my friend is doing her deep dive, she accidentally friended the crazy girl friend! For the LOVE OF ALL THINGS HOLY! Unfriend, unfriend, unfriend. She did that but the damage was done. She had friended her for about two minutes and the girl saw it.

You know what came next? The guy is stressing out (which, I love) and then asked my friend why she friended his girlfriend? She didn't respond (smart). I am sure the crazy girl saw they only had one friend in common and she must have blown his doors off.

As if we all didn't see this coming, one week later this guy unfriends my friend. I am sure he had some 'splaining to do and probably had to commit to the unfriending to continue the relationship.

With scenarios like this, I have such a simple thought. If people weren't playing games, none of this would happen. I will never understand the drama people create in their lives.

Lesson Learned? A deep dive can put your mind at ease proving your intuition was spot on. It usually is. And, be careful when investigating the potential suspect, one accidental friend request can start some trouble! (or, in my view, initiate Karma).